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Advocates also elucidate that a woman making herself easily available to men may increase her chances of being unconsciously or unscrupulously taken advantage of or abused.
By applying a deliberate approach to relationships, Rules champions suggest, a woman has the time and space to discover and reflect upon the character and actions of a man she is dating.
Others noted that Fein was an accountant and Schneider a freelance journalist without professional qualification in the subject matter.
Fein married and divorced, and has recently remarried. The authors admitted they were not professionals in an appearance on NBC's The Today Show.
In The Rules II: More Rules to Live and Love By, published in 1997, Fein and Schneider proclaim, "If he doesn't call, he's not that interested. Her argument was that after having written a best seller and raising two children, she and her husband discovered they were two different people from the young couple that fell in love.
WHITFIELD: And Ellen, you mentioned on your ten top rules, you say if you are in a long distance relationship, he must visit you at least three times before you visit him. FEIN: Yes -- well, just that, that he must visit you three times before you visit him, so that you know that he is serious about you. He comes to visit you three times before you visit him, and we also say buyer beware of men online that want to chat forever. He is either asking you to get together, asking about meeting you, you don't need pen pals for six months or a year, so that is another thing to really weed out the bad guys from the good guys, married men.
Married men won't want to meet you after four e-mails. Sherrie, so your last bit advice, after giving yourself a cutoff point, as to how long you keep this dialogue going online, you finally go out for a date.
Proponents of the methods offered in the book point to The Rules as having positive results for both men and women.
They represent the point of view that men enjoy being the aggressor and are inspired to treat women better who choose behaviors which set up boundaries and slow down the courtship process.