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She also contributes at Psychology Today and teaches psychology at Austin-area universities.
Women often ask me why the single men over 60 they meet are reluctant to remarry.
Obviously there is no ‘bad’ person in some of these relationships, just two people with different goals of what they want in life, both struggling to achieve them.” Randy went on to say, when men don’t want to remarry later in life, and they are honest about those feelings with the women they date, “these women have to decide to accept those terms or move on to someone whose goals match their goals with the recognition that at this point in life, finding a caring and compatible relationship is a rare jewel indeed.” Sid, another widower, said, “I lost my wife to cancer and really miss her every day. I have dated divorced women who have also lost their marriage and they have a different view toward the relationship than I had.
The idea that I could ever re-create that relationship has never crossed my mind. We are all looking for some kindness and peace with each other so let’s go out and make it happen.” Regarding marriage, Sid added, “Never say never, but it would take a real special woman who really understands widowhood, like another widow.
In this week’s column, two men who both lost their wives to cancer, share their opinions.
Since my wife’s death, I have had four long-term relationships of more than two years that all ended because these wonderful ladies could not accept what I could give.
Not to hurt them, not to discourage them or belittle their feelings but to make sure they recognized that I could not give beyond what they were getting.
“I was afraid that even a little acknowledgement, a crumb of ‘yes, I love you too,’ would be a reinforcement of what their idea of the future was.
Instead, they’ll only feel angry once they see the real you—much as you might feel if a prospective date hinted that he was a financially stable professor, but turned out to be a struggling grad student with ,000 in debt and no plan to pay it down. And men regularly fall for mere mortals they’ve gotten to know in social organizations. Pick some testosterone-laden places you’d like to go; go often (without a posse); and use the Women’s Most Successful Pick-Up Tactic In The World: Smile and make eye contact. And please don’t automatically reject men because of their age while expecting them to ignore yours… Lower your standards for your prospective mate’s success—money, education, property ownership, an Oscar…None of this matters if you’re done raising babies and have satisfied your own survival needs. Only a quarter of men are remarrying after their wife’s death—typically, the wealthier men who can command a younger audience. Women routinely say they want a man who is 6 feet tall or taller. Statistically few men attain that height—American male average height is 5’9”—, and those who do can choose a much younger woman. Elizabeth, not only do the data show this to be sound, but W. Cleveland, for research regarding “Remarriage probability after widowhood” Devendra Singh, for evidence regarding the waist-to-hip ratio and its importance in female beauty David M.
A sizeable portion of the other 75% might wed, too, if financially secure women their own age would relax their standards for material goods. I have met clients who refuse to budge on this one, usually while bemoaning men as superficial(! Buss, for multi-cultural research regarding what men and women really want, and why they want it Duana C. D., is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, coming in January, 2015.